I am Caryn and here is my story.
I wear many hats…well, not really because I think I look awful in hats. But, I do wear a lot of metaphorical hats. I’m a wife. Not just any wife, the proud wife of A U.S. Marine. I am a mother, sister, daughter, granddaughter, aunt, friend, nurse and Thirty-One consultant. I imagine I probably left a few things out too!!
My husband and I have been married for 6 years now. We are complete opposites, but we balance each other out SO well. I am looking forward to many, many more years with him by my side. He has been incredibly supportive in this venture. Our daughter is a wild, crazy, strong-willed 4 year-old. She is lucky she is so beautiful, because she sure knows how to test me! It is amazing to see her growing and learning about the world every day. There is always something new, and she never ceases to amaze me. Our son is a sweet, cuddly, rough-and-tumble 3 year-old. He melts my heart with his constant hugs and kisses, his adorable smile and, “Mom, I SO love you” comments! I can’t imagine my life without any of them!
5 years ago, 3 years ago, even 1 year ago, I never would have thought I’d be in the place I am today. “That is crazy!” “I don’t understand how anyone could want to do that!” Those were both things that came to my mind when I heard about someone being a gestational surrogate. Last summer, I ate my own words!
It is said that God brings you to people, places and situations for a reason, even if you have no idea why at the time. Two years ago, I met Ali. Who would have thought that a resale website could bring such amazing changes to my life. Ali was the first person I interviewed when I started looking for a new babysitter for my own children. I interviewed one other person that day, and then stopped. There was just something about Ali just felt right. From the beginning, I knew that Ali had health issues, but I never really inquired about it because it never interfered with the amazing care she provided to my children. As time passed, we talked more and I learned more about her condition, but I still had no idea what was to come!
After just over a year, I learned (just after Ali did) that she would not be able to have children! This was something that she was expecting to hear, but I was not. My heart broke for her. Here is a woman that has always treated my children as if they were her own, been incredibly flexible with us and provided such a great support as well, how could she not be given the blessing of her own child?
Over the course of the next few days, the thoughts of surrogacy ran through my mind, but I simply shrugged them off. I still didn’t quite understand how one could give up a child that grew inside of them. The more time that passed, the more I truly felt as though it was something that should at least be considered. I couldn’t imagine being denied the things in life that bring me the most joy, and I couldn’t imagine Ali without them either. I mentioned it to my husband who replied, “sure, why not. Maybe we can get some free babysitting out of it!” Ugh…men! Well, little did he know, I was serious and since he gave his permission, I decided to talk to Ali.
A few weeks later, everything changed as Ali and Brian accepted my offer! That was almost a year ago…due to necessary scheduling adjustments, we are just now moving forward with the process. I am so excited to begin this incredible journey that will bind my family with Ali’s family, and hopefully let her family grow by 2!