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Surrogacy Screenings Explained

The surrogacy screening process is a lengthy and involved one that often takes several weeks to complete. It can seem, at times, completely overwhelming. It’s not abnormal to feel intimated and frustrated by the process. It’s also completely normal to feel excited by the process. Here’s a look at what to expect. Most surrogate screenings are done by agencies. Of …

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Loss as a Gestational Carrier

“Ask him on Wednesday!” she urged me in response to my post on our group email list. “You have an appointment anyway, so just ask him to take a look!” I already knew that’s exactly what I wanted, but I was hesitant to ask for it. I didn’t want my intended parents billed for something so frivolous as an extra …

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5 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Becoming a Surrogate

Are you thinking of being a surrogate? 5 questions to ask yourself before becoming a surrogate, to help you decide: Becoming a surrogate is a physically demanding and emotional process, even for women who enjoy being pregnant. If you are trying to decide if surrogacy is the right path for you, part of your decision process will be doing some …

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How to: Explain Surrogacy to Children

Oh boy! The idea of explaining your choice to become a surrogate to your children is overwhelming! In fact, we’ve heard about a lot of surrogates who are less worried about telling their bosses their choice to become a surrogate than they are to talk with their young kids! Well, take a deep breath and relax. Trust us when we …

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Making it Easier for Families Through Surrogacy

With a US conference for those contemplating surrogacy just around the corner, gay dad Sam Everingham explains what motivates him to run events for intending parents promoting good surrogacy practices not just in the US but globally. When my partner Phil & I engaged in surrogacy in New Delhi seven years ago, we were pretty naïve about the risks and …

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Surrogacy Soapbox

In my experience with surrogacy, people fall into one of four categories in their opinions: A) Surrogacy is the most amazing thing a woman can do for another person and anyone who does it should be given a medal. Or at least a huge hug. B) Surrogacy is pretty cool. Good for you for doing it. Those twins sure are …

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Surrogacy Timeline for Surrogates

Approximate Timeline of the Surrogacy Process for Surrogates First and foremost, keep in mind that surrogacy is not a quick process. It can sometimes take years to complete a single journey. This is due to the many variables and factors that go into each surrogacy arrangement and IVF (in- vitro fertilization) cycle. Many parties and individuals need to sync schedules, testing …

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HIV+ Surrogacy: Cat’s Out of the Bag

Prior to publicly posting the blog, I talked to all of my close friends and family. Many of them already knew I was planning on a second surrogacy, but not the details. On one hand, it’s really none of their business what I choose to do with my time and family, and it’s certainly not like they were going to …

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Requirements to Become a Surrogate

It takes a special woman to have the desire to carry a baby for another. But did you know, that even though these special women are few and far between, there are also certain requirements to become a surrogate? Regardless of whether you choose to sign on with a surrogacy agency or go the independent route, there will be a …

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HIV+ Surrogacy: Hurry Up and Wait

I understand that the details of every surrogacy journey are varied, but the process thus far has been completely different than my first experience. Before my first journey, I had thought about doing surrogacy for years, so when Evan and I determined that three was it for us, I started looking into it more seriously. I applied with NWSC in …